Monthly Archives: July 2013

5 Ways To Improve Your Love Life WITHOUT Spending More Time Online

If there’s one thing that everyone can agree on its this: it would be great to spend LESS time behind a computer, and MORE time meeting new people and doing fun things together with them!

This is particularly true in dating, since meeting someone in person is the ONLY way you’ll know if they’re right for you. But how can you find time to meet new people without having to troll through endless online or social media profiles? Here’s 5 ways how:

  1. Be proactive: good things in dating come to those that wait… NOT! Waiting for Prince or Princess Charming to come sweep you off your sofa won’t work.  Commit to getting yourself out there and out of your comfort zone… the journey to a revitalized Love life begins with a single step.
  2. Use your network: although you may not think of your friends, family and acquaintances as a ‘personal network’, that is in fact what they are.  Make an effort during these summer months to reconnect with people in person, and don’t hesitate to update them on your personal status.  Who knows, they may know someone, who knows someone, who’s perfect for you!
  3. Heat things up: the Vancouver summer means BBQ season, one of the best places to meet people old and new alike.  Get yourself invited to as many BBQ’s as possible, and host one yourself.  Ask your friends to bring some single friends to increase your chances of a connection.
  4. Play outside: Join in with a summer activity league… co-ed volleyball, sailing, Paddle boarding, dragon boat racing, running, hiking – whatever your activity of choice, there are ample opportunities to do something fun, learn something new, and meet like-minded people this summer in Vancouver.
  5. Leave the hunting to us: if your time (or motivation) is lacking, consider hiring a professional matchmaking service like Executive Search Dating to find and screen compatible matches just for you.  There’s a reason why matchmaking services are so popular in Vancouver… they work!

The Real Truth About Vancouver’s Dating Scene: Is It So Hard To Score?

If you believe recent media reports, it’s hard times for singles in Vancouver.  Here are just a few of the recent headlines:

• “Vancouver’s Dating Scene: Why Is It So Hard To Score?” (Vancouver Sun)

• “Do Vancouver Men Suck?” (Vancouver Magazine)

Here’s our take: there is bad news and good news.  The bad news is that there are three Vancouver-specific dating challenges for local singles.  The good news, however, is that there are also three simple solutions to these so-called Vancouver dating dilemmas.  Here they are:

• CHALLENGE #1: Singles don’t often approach strangers in Vancouver.

• SOLUTION #1: Waiting to be approached in Vancouver is a recipe for prolonged singledom. Practice saying hello to strangers (yes, practicing in front of a mirror at home does work); smile and make eye contact with people in social places; say a friendly ‘hello’ to everyone you meet, single or otherwise.

• CHALLENGE #2: Vancouver singles often socialize in large groups, making it more daunting to approach someone you are interested in.

• SOLUTION #2: A crowded bar or lounge on a busy weekend night is not the best way to meet someone new in any city. If, however, you do find yourself in this setting then focus on having fun and being positive and open… this is an alluring quality in any venue. Avoid sitting in a large booth surrounded by people that you already know; aim to sit at a stand up or shared table and leave a few stools free for someone new to join; and get your drinks from the bar where you’ll mingle with some new people along the way.

• CHALLENGE #3: Vancouver singles, particularly in the summer months, tend to prefer outdoor venues and activities vs. indoor venues like bars and restaurants, making it hard to meet them.

• SOLUTION #3: Mix up your routine! As the famous matchmaker Albert Einstein once said: ‘The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result.’ Join a summer co-ed volleyball or softball league; take some Latin dance classes; attend some wine tastings, cooking classes and art gallery openings; do your weekly shopping in a different neighbourhood; hire a matchmaker! Being proactive in dating, and in life, will always get you the best results.

 

 

What Your Date Really Wants

Perhaps the most stressful part of a first date is knowing whether your date is enjoying themselves. Are they enjoying your company and already thinking about a second date? Or are they bored and thinking about leaving soon?

Here are some proven strategies to make sure your date gets what they want, and some tips on what to do if they’re not:

  • What your date wants: to feel at ease – dating should be relaxed and fun.  That can be hard when your dating partner is tense, stressed or scowling.
  • What to do if they’re not – smile, relax, tell a funny story or two.  Stop thinking that the world has to move on your date and just be your most relaxed self.

 

  • What your date wants: to be heard – being with someone who likes to talk can be good, but not if your date begins to feel that they can’t get a word in edge-wise, or if they sense that you’re not interested in what they have to say.
  • What to do if they’re not – don’t just listen, ACTIVELY listen… ask follow up questions, refer back to their earlier points, and sincerely listen to what they have to say.  Target listening as much as you talk on your first or second date.

 

  • What your date wants: to feel good – dating is a confidence game, the more confidence you have, the better you’ll feel, and the more dating success you’ll have.  No-one wants to come away from a date feeling bad about themselves.
  • What to do if they’re not – regardless of how much initial chemistry you do or do not feel with someone, do everything you can to make the date a positive experience for both of you.  Firstly, you’ll rarely know if someone is a good match for you on a first date (always arrange to see someone a second or third time to determine that); also, even if you are not a romantic match for them, they may know someone who’s perfect for you!

10 “Can’t Miss” Vancouver Summer Date Ideas

Summer is here.  Time to make your dating life sizzle!

The best thing about the summer dating season is the abundance of  great, low cost date ideas sure to make an positive impression on your special someone.  The key is to get outdoors and let Mother Nature be your matchmaker!

Here are 10 “Can’t Miss” Vancouver summer date ideas!:

  1. The picnic date: nothing says summer lovin’  like a picnic with your special someone. Pack some snacks and a bottle of wine and romance will soon follow.
  2. Go fly a kite: take your date to Granville Island to buy a kite, then head to Vanier Park and watch it fly. Having fun is always a good dating strategy.
  3. Garage Sale-a-go-go: spend a sunny weekend browsing, laughing and chatting your way through the local neighbourhood garage sales.
  4. Festival fever: summer means festival season in Vancouver… the Folk Fest and the Khatsahlano Festival in Kits are can’t miss summer dating classics.
  5. Bard on the beach: Shakespeare, a beautiful outdoor setting, and a wine bar make a perfect dating combination.
  6. Music under the stars: head to Deer Lake Park or Malkin Bowl for an outdoor concert. Bring a blanket for optimal cuddling.
  7. Farmers markets: for the healthy and community minded couple, a visit to a local farmer’s market feels good, and tastes good too.
  8. The PNE: yes its cliché, and yes its fun! Scary rides, cheesy games, and stuffed animal prizes. You’ll both be smiling all the way to your next date.
  9. Lighthouse Park: a true Vancouver gem! Take your date for a romantic walk, complete with breathtaking views of our city.
  10. Nat Bailey Stadium: hot dog fan or not, watching a baseball game at “The Nat” is an old-school date that won’t let you down.

 

How To Meet Someone New In 9 Easy Steps

Perfect or even good matches don’t just happen. In fact, waiting for Mr. or Ms. Right to come walking into your living room is rarely a successful approach.

So how do you INCREASE your chances of meeting someone special, maybe even someone who you never thought you’d have the chance to meet? Here are 9 ways how:

  1. Be bold: as someone once famously said, ‘fortune favours the bold’, and that’s true for dating as well. Break out of your comfort zone and approach some new people in social and everyday settings. You have nothing to lose but your single life.
  2. Be creative: Einstein once said, ‘Insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result’, and likewise for dating. Visit some new neighborhoods, do your weekly shopping in a different and new market, take some cooking classes, etc… every new situation is an opportunity to meet some new people.
  3. Be proactive: don’t wait for your special someone to find you; take some proactive steps to meet someone new. Professional dating services, such as Executive Search Dating, are successful in Vancouver for a reason: they work. Join one and see for yourself.
  4. Be first: one of the most common mistakes singles make when they are out socially is to not approach someone that interests them sooner rather than later. Staring at someone all night while you have a few more drinks to buck up your courage to introduce yourself may seem logical, but it usually fails. Your best bet in dating, and in life, is to commit to making the first step.
  5. Be positive: as simple and basic as it may seem, smiling and projecting a positive demeanor when in social situations is one of THE most important components of meeting someone new.
  6. Be fearless: losing the fear of approaching someone new is one of the most difficult challenges in dating, particularly in Vancouver. There is no magic solution to this one; however, asking yourself the following question may help: ‘What have I got to lose?’
  7. Be polite: forget about cheesy approach lines; when introducing yourself to someone new keep it simple and polite. After all, as Canadians, politeness in hard wired into us so its highly unlikely that someone will respond to politeness with rudeness.
  8. Be resilient: not everyone new that you meet will be single or interested in you, but don’t let that deter you. Meeting someone new is a numbers game at some level: the chances of connecting with someone will increase in proportion to the number of new people that you meet.
  9. Be optimistic: its natural to feel discouraged if you’ve been dating but not really connecting with someone. But being optimistic and hopeful is always the best strategy… and keep an open mind when you are meeting someone new. The truth is that the qualities that REALLY matter are the ones below the surface.