When you dream about your perfect partner, what do they look like? I’ll bet they’re very attractive – exactly your physical type, right?
Physical chemistry is important – who are we kidding – but what happens when your dream relationship runs into real-life problems?
Well, physical chemistry alone won’t save you. But this essential relationship quality will:
What is it?:
- An ability to rise above the day to day issues (job, health, family, stress, etc.) and see the relationship as a whole.
- An ability to discuss the overall state of your relationship, without getting dragged down into minute details and petty grievances.
- An openness to seeing things from your partner’s perspective & being open to change & compromise for the sake of your relationship.
- An ability to say you’re wrong.
How can you spot it?:
- Is someone open to new ideas, or are they close-minded in your early conversations?
- When discussing past relationships, do they blame their past partners or do they accept some of the blame themselves? Do they say they’ve learned from past relationships?
- Do they anger easily & yell at restaurant staff, other drivers, etc.; do they constantly criticize others but never their own actions?
- Do they value relationships with friends, family, co-workers, etc?