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5 Perfect Opening Lines On Your First Date

Are you dating & looking for something serious?

Then know this: good dates start well & get better. Bad dates start poorly & get worse.

So how can you make sure your date gets off to a good start? Use one of these five perfect opening lines:

  1. “You look fantastic”: sincere compliments are a sure-fire dating winner. But there’s a catch – it has to be a SINCERE compliment. So don’t compliment someone on how great they look if they’re soaked from the rain; compliment them on how good they look in spite of being soaked by the rain.
  2. “Its so great to see you!”: again, this should be heartfelt – but if you’re not completely feeling it (yet), then fake it! Your date wants to be appreciated – if they don’t feel that way at the start of your date, why should they appreciate you?
  3. Talk about the weather: I know, I know – how boring could an opening line possibly be, right? But here’s the thing; people are generally a bit nervous on a first date – launching into some detailed story or joke at first sight will likely fall on deaf ears. Talking about something simple like the weather (‘isn’t it beautiful out tonight?’) is easy to answer and will likely relax your date. Once you’ve ‘warmed’ each other up, there’ll be plenty of time to talk about more important things.
  4. “Have you been here before?”: on the same theme of ‘keeping it simple to start’, get your conversation started by talking about your date location. Hint: find something POSITIVE to say about the place (ie. ‘the staff are great’; ‘they make fantastic martinis here’; ‘its a great people watching place’, etc.) – saying something negative at the start of a date (about anything) is a sure-fire first date chemistry-killer!
  5. Less cheese, more meat: cheesy opening lines don’t work at a bar, nor do they work on a first date. Ditch the “Do you have a name or can I call you mine?”, and their kind. Be in the moment and comment on something real – “Wow, its really busy out tonight!”, or “I’ve heard they have great appies here – can’t wait to try one!”, or “Must be my lucky day, I found a parking space right outside!” It doesn’t matter what you say, just make it real (and positive).

11 Facts About Flirting You Need To Know

Question: what is the most exciting and terrifying thing at the same time?

Answer: flirting with someone you’re attracted to.

And, in spite of what you’ve heard, there’s this: flirting is important for couples as well as singles.

Here’s the 11 key flirting facts you need to know today!

  1. People flirt for six different reasons:
    1. Sex: trying to get in bed.
    2. Fun: treating it like a sport.
    3. Exploring: trying to see what it would be like to be in a relationship.
    4. Relational: trying to increase the intimacy of a relationship.
    5. Esteem: increasing one’s own self esteem.
    6. Instrumental: trying to get something from the other person.
  2. Couples need to flirt, too:  why? As a means of maintaining and emphasizing intimacy. Oftentimes, married couples flirt to “create a private world with the spouse.”
  3. People feel connected when they get past the small talk.
  4. Men overestimate how interested women are.
  5. The most attractive characteristics depend on gender, studies show:
    1. Happiness was the most attractive female expression, but one of the least attractive for men.
    2. Pride was the most attractive male expression, but one of the least attractive for women.
    3. Interestingly, an expression of shame was relatively attractive on both men and women.
  6. Flirting can enhance your attraction:  in fact, flirting is a “negotiation process” that happens after the first moments of attraction.
  7. It’s not about being the most attractive person in the room:  for example, women who smile and make eye contact with others are more likely to be approached than those who were simply good looking.
  8. There may be four main styles of flirting:
    1. Physical flirts tend to subtly touch the person they’re interested in.
    2. Traditional flirts believe men should make the first move.
    3. Sincere flirts get other people to open up to them.
    4. Playful flirts see the interaction as a game and may be using the flirtation as a means to another end.
  9. The best flirters shift their strategy depending on context:  for example, if you’re flirting with someone perceived as higher status than you, being more subtle will lead to more success, according to research.
  10. If you’re flirting on an app, there are some words that work better than others:  for men, calling a woman “beautiful” led to a conversation 20% of the time. Women messaging men first receive responses less often, but using the word “nice” works best.
  11. Flirting could be all about biology:  flirting may have less to do with words or body language, and more to do with biology. Pheromones, or chemicals released by your body, have an impact on people around you and can contribute to physical attraction.

5 Tell-Tale Signs Someone Is Interested In You

One of the biggest mistakes you can make in dating is to judge someone too quickly on a first date. The reality is this: you’ll likely not know if someone is your perfect match on a first meeting.

The key to successful dating is focusing more on a second (or third) date with someone to determine whether they are a good match for you or not. But how do you know if your date is interested in you, and open to going on a second date? Look for these 5 signs:

  1. It’s in the smile:  a smile is a person’s most basic way of showing their interest in you… if your date is smiling easily and often consider it a very good sign. On the other hand, if your date is frowning consider it a sign that you need to change topics.
  2. Doesn’t feel like a date:  when conversation is flowing freely its typically a sign that the date is going well… avoid turning the date into an ‘interview’; keeps things casual, and you’ll increase the chances of a second date.
  3. Body language:  as important as words, a person’s body language can often tell you how the date is going… if your date’s body language is open, warm and inviting its a sign that they are enjoying your company. If they are exhibiting ‘closed’ body language (arms crossed, body pointing away from you, tense, etc.) its likely a sign that the date isn’t going well.
  4. Fun times:  if you are having fun on your date, it likely means your date is having fun as well. Focus on enjoying yourself and being positive on your date and your chances of a second date will be good.
  5. When in doubt, ask:  the single biggest mistake singles make on a first date is not asking for a second date. There’s no need or reason to wait for days before contacting someone again. If things are going well on your first date, ask for a second date (something casual, a coffee, movie or an upcoming event that interests you and them, etc.). You’ll never have a better chance to ask for a second date, then at the end of a good first date.