7 Most Popular Dating Myths

Dating, in particular ‘Positive Dating’, is an effective and essential means of identifying a compatible relationship partner.  The professional matchmakers at Executive Search Dating, however, are often struck by how many misperceptions there are about dating.  Here are 7 of the most common dating myths:

  1. Dating is hard: in fact, dating can and should be fun; the key element in successful dating is to be yourself and not try to be someone you think your date wants you to be.
  2. Chemistry needs to happen ‘at first site’: in fact, a first date is NOT necessarily the best time to decide if you have long term compatibility with someone.  A second or even third date with someone is often a better time to gauge true compatibility.
  3. There are no more single men or women out there: the ratio of single and available men and women is a lot closer to ’1 to 1′ than most people would think.  The challenge, particularly for single professionals, is that many quality singles don’t necessarily go to bars or online to find someone special.
  4. A first date should feel like an interview: in fact the reverse is true.  The first date should be fun; remember that the primary purpose of the first date is to establish whether you have even a little bit of chemistry.  When you focus on having fun, the chances of connecting with someone increase.
  5. If I meet someone I like, the first date should be long and incredible: not necessarily; often an effective approach can be to keep the first date relatively short and fun.  If things are going well, make arrangements to see each other again before the end of your first date.
  6. I need to impress my date, especially on a first date: actually, you can often make a better impression by focusing as much on your date as you do talking about yourself.
  7. By talking about my job (or checking my emails during the date) I can make a good impression on someone: actually, talking about your work on a first date is not necessarily a good thing.  Try focusing more on fun things; travel stories, plans for the fall, etc.