There are lots of things that determine a couple’s long-term compatibility – their values, their goals, their idea of fun, their commitment to work. But what also matters is what “type” you are – and what “type” is your partner. Some types go together like bread & butter. Others like oil & water. So which type are you, and what does this mean for your relationship potential? Depending on how you answer the question “how do you respond to expectations”, you are one of 4 types:
- Upholders generally meet both inner and outer expectations, meaning they don’t let others or themselves down.
- Questioners meet inner expectations; they’ll only do something if they think it makes sense.
- Obligers (the biggest category) meet outer expectations but don’t always meet inner ones; they usually need some form of external accountability.
- Rebels resist both inner and outer expectations; if you ask a rebel to do something, they’ll likely resist.