Its been said: you spend half your life finding love; and half your life trying to keep it alive.
So what’s the secret to “happily ever after”?
Its not magic, but its not automatic – here’s 3 things that will keep your love alive:
- Work it: if you’re looking for a ‘quick & easy’ solution for long term relationship bliss, I have some sobering news – successful couples work at it. A lot. Here’s the problem with ‘magical’ romantic chemistry – it can disappear as quickly as it came. Focus on those things you can control, like how much effort you put into making your relationship work.
- Don’t fix the bad. Increase the good: relationships don’t fail because of an increase in conflict, but because of a decrease in positive feelings about your partner. Stop trying to change each other – you are who you both are, that won’t change – and focus instead on doing things together that make you happy: travel, movies, culture, outdoor activities, dancing, or even curling up occasionally with a glass of wine and Netflix.
- Forget romance. Think excitement: remember your first date? I’ll bet it was fun & even exciting – now you’re on the right track! Yes, chilling on a sofa and watching a movie is fine, but whenever and wherever you get the chance, do something exciting. Take a trip somewhere you’ve never been, go to concert or a comedy show. Life (and love) is to be lived.