Dating services, including online dating services, have become the most popular way for singles to meet in Vancouver. That’s a good thing. Here’s the problem: some dating services, in particular online dating services, only succeed when singles continue to use their service – in other words, if everyone found their ‘match’ right away they’d have very few active members, making it hard for you to meet someone compatible on their site. With that in mind, here’s some online dating advice you should IGNORE if you’re interested in finding a relationship, not just endless dating:
- ‘Dating is a numbers game’: actually, no its not – unless you’re talking about the number 1, which is the number of people that you will ultimately truly connect with. The thought that meeting 20 or 30 singles will increase your chances of meeting ‘The One’ is incorrect. More likely, going on 20 to 30 dates will make you feel frustrated and give up on dating which won’t help you find your special someone.
- ‘Now that you’ve met someone interesting, here’s 5 other profiles for you’: once you’ve met someone that you’re interested in (and they you), your best best is to take some time to get to know them before going on a bunch of other dates. If you’re online dating, avoid the daily barrage of supposed ‘matches’. You’re better off with one real match, than 10 online profiles.
- ‘We’re sorry to see you go; here’s a half price offer’: instead of endlessly renewing your online dating membership (or more likely, being ‘auto-renewed’), consider trying some other alternatives. Visit some new neighborhoods with some friends, attend some events you enjoy, or if you’re too busy for that hire a personalized matchmaking service like Executive Search Dating!
- ‘It’s not us, it’s you’: if you’ve been online dating for a while and had no success, it’s easy to start feeling that there’s something wrong with you or your dating approach. Here’s the good news: that’s not true! More likely, it’s simply a sign that online dating is not for you or, at a minimum, you need to take a break from online dating and try some new methods (see point #3 above). Not all things are meant to be done at the speed of a mouse click, and finding a relationship is one of them.