In dating, looks matter - who are we kidding? But if you're seeking a long term relationship partner, looks aren't the most important thing. Matchmakers will tell you: "Beware the person you find EXTREMELY attractive when you first meet them - you may be blinded to the fact that they're not actually a great match for you." Here's 4 dating red flags to look out for on your date:
- Just not that into you: if your date is constantly checking their phone, or seems distracted during your date, it may be a sign that there's no real spark. By all means, try and get things back on track (ask about something that interests them; or go see an event you're both interested in), but consider pursuing other dating options if that doesn't work.
- Not relationship-material: if you've got your life together (career, health, finances, etc.), its natural to want to meet someone who's in the same place. Looking at a pretty face will only go so far; once you discover that you're not really a good relationship fit, even the strongest chemistry can fade in time.
- All sizzle, no steak: being physically attracted to someone is great, particularly if you're on a first or second date. But after a while, you should find that you have other things in common; and have good conversations about a variety of topics that interest you both. Ask yourself this question: does being around them make you feel good about yourself?
- Different life-goals: if you value family and want to have one of your own some day - but your partner doesn't - it may be a sign of problems ahead. Similarly, shared feelings about education, travel, views on the world, etc. can be an important part of a relationship where chemistry GROWS over time. You don't have to date someone exactly like you, but where there are major differences be sure to talk through them before committing to something long-term just based on physical chemistry.