You walk away from a date feeling great – things couldn’t have gone better! But when you contact them the next day & suggest a 2nd date, they’re not interested. “What happened?!”, you ask yourself. When you’re on a date, its the questions you’re not asked that are the most important. Learn them – and how to overcome them – and you’ll rejuvenate your love life:
- Why are you still single?: most singles know this is a lousy question to ask on a date (and if they don’t – they should!), so its most often not asked – but that doesn’t mean your dates not thinking about it. Don’t address it directly – which can sound defensive – do this instead: be positive, fun, funny & amazing on your date. Make them ask themselves this instead – “How lucky am I that you’re still single!”
- Are you serious?: in today’s casual dating app world, its easy to assume your date’s not seriously looking for a relationship. But if you are, then show it. Be considerate, be totally engaged with your date when you’re together, put away your phone! Most importantly, see them again (and again) – it may not lead you immediately to a relationship but it’ll become something real, and that’s a great start.
- Do you care?: everyone’s on their best behavior when you first meet them – so if your date notices some bad tendencies (ie. you argue with the restaurant staff; talk only about yourself; trash talk your exes, etc.), they’ll naturally assume things will only get worse over time. Be kind and friendly to everyone on your date – including the wait staff & that noisy table beside you – if you find this challenging, maybe you need to work on that if you want someone to truly care about you?
- Can I trust you?: the foundation of every successful relationship is trust – and this begins on your very first date. Be on time, make an effort & do everything you can to make your date feel special. Then, be true to your word – if you say you’ll call them – do!