Your perfect match is out there somewhere, but they're probably not perfect. Then again, unless you're 'perfect' yourself, meeting someone who is won't necessarily be a perfect match for you. The key to relationship success is finding someone who's not perfect, but perfect for YOU. It's not just about looks and immediate "chemistry", its also about finding common interests and common ground that are the foundations of long term happiness. So if you've met someone new and you're wondering about your future relationship prospects together, here's 4 signs that you're a perfect match (Source: L. Ryan; T. Goldstein):
- Going places (together): one of the easiest ways to tell if you're a good match with your partner is to plan a trip together. If one of you wants to hop in an RV and road trip to Mexico, while the other wants to fly first class and stay at a 5 star resort, that’s a sign that you aren’t a good fit. Travelling together (particularly 'off the beaten track' travelling) also tests your ability to make decisions together - a vital part of a successful long term relationship.
- Common interests: as simple as it may sound, having some common interests that you love doing together is an important part of being happy together. Also, making an effort to try some new things that your partner likes doing can give you even more reasons to spend quality time together.
- Finding the right balance: matchmakers will tell you that people who share similar attributes are generally more suitable long term relationship partners. 'Opposites Attract' can lead to initial sparks, but problems down the road. Having said that, what's most important is finding someone who compliments you. If you're the life of the party, perhaps your partner is more grounded. If you're extremely ambitious, perhaps your partner is more stable and supportive.
- At your best: when you're with someone who makes you feel good about yourself, your chances of relationship success are enhanced. This allows you to relax, be yourself & comfortable in your own skin. Couples who are constantly searching for things to talk about, or never feel truly 'comfortable' in each other's presence, can struggle to find the deeper kind of connection required for long term chemistry and relationship success.