Are you ready for a relationship but tired of looking? If so, here’s some advice: stop searching & start finding.

‘Sounds great!’ you say, but how? The secret is to focus less on external factors (that you can’t control), and more on internal factors that you CAN control.

Here’s 5 ways to make your next relationship come to you:

  1. Be the person you want to meet:  its easy to focus on all the qualities you’re looking for in someone, but who’s to say they’ll be into you once you do meet them? Think of the most important qualities you’re seeking (active, has their life together, well read, etc.) – next step: adopt those qualities!
  2. More give, less take:  instead of approaching your dates with a selfish mindset (ie. they need to fulfill ‘x, y, z’ criteria, etc.), try this instead: make every effort to ensure your dates enjoy themselves & feel good about themselves after they’ve met you. It may not lead to an immediate relationship, but its a pretty good start.
  3. Hire a professional:  if you’re too busy or just not meeting the type of people you consider relationship potential, consider hiring a professional matchmaking service like Executive Search Dating. You wouldn’t buy a house without some professional help, so why does finding a life-partner always have to be ‘do-it-yourself’?
  4. Word-of-mouth:  the most powerful type of marketing is ‘word of mouth’ marketing. Put this to work for your love life: let your friends & acquaintances know you’re single & open to meeting someone new. Hint: this works better when you’re a good friend to have (if you’re not, maybe its time you fixed that?).
  5. Don’t boil the ocean:  in today’s dating app world, its easy to feel like you have to be ‘on the search’ 24/7. Our advice: Don’t be  – its a trap. Spending all of your free time clicking and swiping can often lead to dating burnout, or worse yet dating frustration – which means you won’t be at your best when you do meet someone who’s a great fit for you. Put away your smartphone & try some new methods of meeting people (activities, cooking classes, music & art festivals, etc.). Don’t just focus on meeting single people, couples know single people too & are often ‘on the hunt’ for quality singles to match up with their single friends.