So you've just met someone you REALLY like - but how can you leave a lasting impression on them, so they'll want to see you again (and again)?
With the right words and actions, almost anyone can create a captivating presence.
Here's 6 ways to be memorable when you've met someone new (Source: J. Reisenger; R. Riker):
- Put on your talking hat: on a date, silence is NOT golden. Lose your fear of sounding like a fool - tell some stories, ask some questions, talk about something that made you feel good today.
- Be blunt and completely honest: people remember extremes, not mediocrity. Don't shy away from saying what's on your mind - but be open to hearing the other person's views, particularly if they disagree with you. Being open-minded is a very sexy quality.
- Be a little bit unusual: breaking out of the cultural norm is an easy way to stick out - but try and stick out in a positive way.
- Use confident body language: nothing will make you stand out more than confident body language - a firm handshake or hug, positive energy, good posture, great eye contact and a killer smile.
- Trigger emotions: to really stand out, you need to make the person you're with feel something - preferably something good; make them laugh, compliment them, engage in a heated two-way conversation.
- Be an engaged listener: people will likely forget what you say, but they'll always remember how you made them feel. Step 1 of making someone feel special is to listen to them - really listen. Active listening is a powerful aphrodisiac.