Sometimes in life, things don’t always go the way you want them to. That includes your love life.

This isn’t necessarily a bad thing – in fact, one step towards finding your relationship is learning about what you don’t want – and learning that being single & alone isn’t all its cracked up to be. Particularly as you get further and further beyond your peak dating years (ie. your 20’s).

So what can you do when you find yourself with a bad case of the dating blues? It’s easy, and you can start today:

  1. Low hanging fruit:  before you get to meeting your perfect person, start by spending quality time with people in your life who you know & like – family, friends, work colleagues, etc.  Consider it a warm up to your spectacular future dating life. Hint: don’t spend that time bitching about your dating life.
  2. Move it:  its easy to forget sometimes that our bodies (and minds) were designed to move around, not sit still. Its spring: get outside, get active, get healthy, grab a coffee and hit the seawall with a friend.  In addition to feeling better about yourself, who knows, you may even run into someone interesting along the way.
  3. More face time, less screen time:  its easy to become attached to our phones and computers these days, but messaging someone on social media is no substitute for meeting people face to face. Let the next text message you send someone be “its nice outside, let’s meet for a coffee/drink & go for a walk!”
  4. We’re all failures in life:  Okay, excuse the dramatic headline. But what this means is that NO successful person in life or relationships got there without failures along the way – in some cases catastrophic failures. Spending all day on social media can leave you with the mistaken impression that everyone’s life is perfect (except yours). Wrong! The truth is that feeling blue is part of the deal. You can’t control that, nor should you. Forget the past, and don’t stress about the future – do something today that makes you feel good (preferably outdoors and/or with someone you enjoy). A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.