First dates can be a communication minefield.
On the one hand, you want to present the best version of yourself to someone who could potentially be your boyfriend or girlfriend. You want to get past the awkward “small talk” and figure out whether the two of you are compatible.
But on the other hand, you don’t want to get too invasive. While there’s no set rulebook for how to act on a first date, there are some questions that could give your potential partner the wrong impression.
Here are the seven worst questions to ask on a first date:
- What’s your relationship like with your parents?: stay away from overly personal questions on the first date. I get it, you want to skip the “small talk” and get to a deep conversation, but you must ease into these topics so the other person does not become uncomfortable.
- Why did you and your ex break up?: bringing up past relationships can also ruin first dates. What happened in the past isn’t relevant to the date that’s happening right now. While someone may have had a rocky relationship with their last partner, you could bring out a completely different side of them.
- What’s your favorite position?: avoid talking explicitly about sex on the first date; its too much, too soon.
- How can you work in a job like that?: avoid judgmental comments and questions about what someone does, wears, hangs out with, etc. You don’t want your date to feel like you’re keeping score and auditioning him or her for the future.
- Why weren’t you a better friend?: along with judgmental questions, avoid asking things that would make your date feel guilty about a personal story they revealed to you – remember, the point is to feel good.
- Do you always wear this much makeup?: avoid asking a question about someone’s appearance. In fact, don’t say anything about your date’s appearance unless it’s a direct compliment.
- Do you want a relationship?: don’t inquire about a long-term relationship on the first date. While you should be upfront about whether you just want to hook up or would like something more serious, getting too serious too soon turns your date off.