Recently we told you the 8 warning signs of a potential dating disaster. Well, that was the easy part. The tricky part is what to do once you've identified these dating warning signs? Here's the secret: there is no secret. Sometimes the solution is staring you right in the face, and it starts with the truth:
- Start with respect: all positive dating experiences - and lasting relationships too - must begin with mutual respect. And respect means respecting your dates time and busy schedule as much as your own. Constantly re-scheduling a date, or showing up very late (the first 2 of the 8 dating warning signs) without a reasonable excuse sends the message that your time is more valuable than theirs. If your date is the one constantly re-scheduling try this - let them pick the time and place that suits their schedule, then make it clear that you've adjusted your schedule to accommodate them. If they re-schedule again or show up very late, consider moving on to another match.
- All you can do is try: once you've made the effort to go on a date, you might as well make the most of it - even when it seems all hope is lost. If your date seems disengaged, distracted, doesn't listen or ask you any questions. or is yawning (dating warning signs #3, 4, 5, 6 and 7) you're faced with two options - get frustrated and storm off or try to make the best of it. Our suggestion: go for the 2nd option. Make an effort to engage your date with some funny stories, ask some questions about the news of the day, or favorite movies or celebrity gossip or favorite TV shows... in other words, anything that might get them at least talking and hopefully smiling. It may all be for naught but, who knows, although your date may not be into you, he or she may know someone who is - and they'll likely appreciate the fact that you made an effort.
- Not every match is a match: although we're all about trying, sometimes your best bet is to cut bait. If you find yourself arguing with someone on a first or second date (dating warning sign #8), it's a pretty good bet that they're not a match for you. Life's too short to argue, particularly with someone you've just met. Yes, arguments are a normal and natural part of a relationship, but not a first or second date. No need to make a scene though, just tell your date the truth: ie. 'Thanks for taking the time to meet with me, but I'm not interested in arguing with you. Why don't we just call for the bill and call it a night?" One of two things will happen next: they'll agree and you can both move on with your dating lives; or they may only then realize that they've been too confrontational and apologize - who knows, the date may even turn out okay in the end.