Noted Matchmaker Albert Einstein once said: “The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result.”
Turns out, he’s on to something! As you start your new year, it’s a good time to reflect on what has and hasn’t worked in your dating life. In particular, why not start the year by opening up your dating criteria and meeting some people outside of your normal ‘type’?
Here’s 3 types of singles you may have overlooked, and who may just be a great fit for you!
- The (non) Looker: looks (don’t always) matter. Yes, its natural to want to be with someone very attractive – and it’s important that you feel at least some physical chemistry when you’ve met someone new. But contrary to popular belief, initial physical attraction is NOT the best predictor of long term relationship success. Spend more time getting to know the person ‘below the surface’ and you’ll likely find things that truly connect you.
- The bad dater: not everyone is the best version of themselves on a first or second date. In fact, sometimes the person you really want to meet hasn’t dated much at all, so they may be nervous or very quiet on a first date. Take the time to see someone again, ideally doing something you’ll both enjoy (a movie, a walk, a music event, etc.), and you’re more likely to see the true person behind the ‘bad first date’.
- The disappearing act: nothing is more frustrating than having a great date, then never hearing back from that person again. It’s easy to assume the person isn’t interested in you and not bother following up (particularly for women, why typically expect the man to make the next move). However, consider these alternative explanations: they may just be temporarily swamped at work; they may have lost your contact details; they may have been interested in you but didn’t think you were interested in them, etc. In other words, if you’ve had a great date, reach out to the person and tell them so. Even suggest a 2nd or 3rd meeting to a fun event or a movie you’ll both enjoy. You have nothing to lose – except perhaps your single life.